(I’m in Rochester, NY for the annual conference of the National Association of Crisis Center Directors and Contact USA, and I often draw or make lists during workshops, which often helps me dispense with the distraction of whatever thought has arisen, letting me get back to the workshop’s content.)
This thought came to me today:
What’s going on with these words? Something weird.
- Positive connotation: humble, humility
- Negative connotation: humiliated, humiliation, humiliate
That’s odd. We typically see something praiseworthy about people who refrain from exaggerating their achievements or throwing them in others’ faces (although this often leads to people being unwilling or unable to accept any credit for their good works, for fear of seeming arrogant). We talk about being humble (as Indiana Jones tells us, “the penitent man is humble before God”).
But people say it feels horrible to be humiliated, it’s rude to humiliate others, and we work really hard to avoid humiliation.
Are these words referring to the same thing? Does being humiliated lead to the same end state as choosing to be humble? Or are they different?
I guess it makes a big difference whether you’ve chosen humility for yourself or been forced into it by others. Actually, that’s true of a lot of things.
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